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[valancystirling]

Jakie says:

being shy and quiet is in no way a weakness. if you hang around a very mixed group of personalities, and they know you're shy and quiet, you will then draw out the right people. the danger is in being around people who are only like yourself, or in not being around people at all.

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[liveshawn.livejournal.com]

I agree, sort of. (Actually, what was the context?)

The term 'shy' even in and of itself carries around all sorts of fun connotations - the main being that you're dysfunctional somehow.

Most people who consider themselves 'shy' are actually just very sensitive. Seriously. People who are attentive to detail, aware of the emotions and even the most minute of gestures from others - these are the sorts of people who are most easily overwhelmed.

Jake's also right that isolation isn't a solution; while it's your nervous system and therefore it should be respected and not regarded as something that needs to be 'fixed,' I do think that a certain level of adaptation has to occur where a person can still function in society - at least to get what they want.

I am tired and whatnot but I think this made sense. Woo.

[valancystirling.livejournal.com]

You were the context, actually. I was telling him about your post and asking for the male perspective. And yeah, shy does have different meanings and connotations, but I think it applies with whichever you plug in.